“To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. If you wait, you die now, if you love, you live now.”
Brene Brown, Author of The Gifts of Imperfection tells us one of our greatest fears, is to not have truly meaningful relationships.
In order to have truly significant relationships we need to begin with loving ourselves. All areas of our lives can improve from self-love. Once we recognize this and give ourselves love, much of our lives will improve.
It’s okay to put yourself on the front line. Ask yourself “what can I do to show myself self-love right now”? Can you choose a healthy dinner to make, take a walk outdoors, meditate, sing, take a nap, call a friend? Give yourself a “time-out”. Start to think about the things you can do that help YOU feel love for yourself.
Here are 3 ways to create a practice of self-love:
1. Clarity: Take a moment to sit quietly with yourself. Place a hand over your heart and close your eyes. (this will help secrete the hormone Oytocin, giving you a calm sense of well-being) Focus on any area in your life that you are struggling with-imagine if the issue was no longer a problem and it was thriving. How would you feel if it’s no longer a problem? Allow yourself to feel that joy and completeness.
2. Compassion: We all mess up, it’s human, we get angry or say or do something stupid and out of character. Did you snap at a waiter? Yell at at a loved one? Cut yourself some slack. We all do it. Forgive yourself for messing up, you are still love worthy. Break the pattern. It’s okay, you can still love yourself and move on.
3. Care: We have to care for ourselves the same way we would for someone we love. We wouldn’t put down our child if they broke a glass or did a sloppy job on a project. No, instead, we’d tell them it’s okay honey, you’ll improve or do better next time. It’s not the end of the world. To be able to care for ourselves, to step away and see ourselves from the outside and then be loving with who we are.
You yourself are deserving of the same love and affection you give, give yourself some love and see if that love will sprinkle in all the other areas of your life.